Woman (1)

The one that could launch a thousand ships.

The only one who could make the man cut all his hair.

The only one that could take him.

The only one that can bring life.

Often described as a ‘delicate flower’

But I really don’t think so.

 

This being is everywhere.

Leaving traces of power in the air.

Often described as too emotional.

Not really, honestly there is no such thing.

This being seems to be everyone’s worst nightmare.

Causing so much fear and despair.

The thought of being left to roam free.

The thought of being left alone.

It’s enough to scare them – those men.

They never see the power, they never see that we can do anything we want to.

2017

Its supposed to be the year of realising things, but all I get are calls asking about when he will make me his wife?

Wife?

what about my life?

What about her life?

What about the girl who wanted to change the world?

What about the girl who doesn’t want to give up her dreams?

This is for that girl, telling her she doesn’t have to.

 

-Ari’

 

What’s in a name?

assurance, tongue-twisting, repetition

prayer, revelation, prophecy

hope, dreams, poetry

 

A name sums up your identity

common but never similar

never same

Your name carries you across the stage

 

destiny, realisation, reality

power, courage, desire

 

To be called one singular thing

is to be called many things

A name is to have meaning

 

To be a well thought out creation

To be attached

To be meaningful

To be loved

 

A name is to be born with great expectations

A name is to be recognised

It is the thing that set fire in their eyes

It is all they saw when they looked at you.

 

-Ari’

A feeling.

You know the feeling when your skin burns.
When your heart falls.

When you want to rip it out with a wrench.

 

You know the feeling when your faith falls.

When you cower because your hope has crawled.

When you can’t see the light but you know you’re in the tunnel.

 

Do you know it?

Do you know what guilty feels like?

You know the feeling when He has forgiven you but.

 

Do you know the feeling when you haven’t forgiven yourself?

 

-Ari’

To Understand [an understanding]

Be weary of yourself.

Be weary of your mind.

Be weary of the expectations you put on them.

 

Not everyone is you.

Not everyone will understand your spirit man.

This is for the ones who will take the time to unfold.

To peel back your layers and take delight in being enthralled in your essence.

 

Understand that a time will come when you will let them go

Those expectations that you carry so –

Close 

Enough that you often get burned.

 

Big wishes and bigger dreams.

They must not consume you.

Inhale the present.

Exhale the resentment.

Don’t let them bring you down.

 

To be expectant of someone who is still expecting themselves.

You may have found you.

Not everyone can.

Take some time to understand your fellow Wo(man). 

 

-Ari’

 

Femme Fatale

Inspired by a dear friend.

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My definition: The ones they tell you and him to stay away from, the ones who know what they want and are not afraid to go after it.

Dictionary definition: a seductive woman who lures men into dangerous or compromising situations.

I have been feeling very inspired lately and recently there is a lot of girl power in the air.

My dear friend recently launched a website, dedicated to educating the masses and having the very important conversation of Feminism and why it is important. Here is the link to a truly enlightening experience  brag-aboutit  .

This post is about me redefining the definition of ‘Femme Fatale’ the popular definition is basically another way of saying women are responsible for the actions grown men take and I do not agree. It could also mean women are powerful and can make their dreams come true and I like this more.

The fact that women are seemingly more liberated in several ways is a good thing. I think it is important that women have the choice to be and  ‘Femme Fatale’ should be another way of saying free.

This post is hereby dedicated to my dear friend for starting something bigger than herself and for being true to her beliefs.

This post is all about the woman I have come to admire and maybe should examine more closely. Gabrielle ‘Coco’ Chanel.

I remember stumbling upon her biopic when I was about ten. That was something I’ll never forget because even at that age I was amazed by how she overcame the struggle and how used her femininity to progress, but despite this, she never compromised her standards and worked hard for everything she got.

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I loved that she believed in practicality and comfort, but not at the expense of looking good. She redefined what it meant to be feminine and showed that black wasn’t a colour anyone should be afraid of. Although I am taking a path far away from hers, she is the very definition of Femme Fatale for me. She did it and was unapologetic in her ambitions.

Coco Chanel inspires me daily to be bold, seek more and put myself out there. I am failing miserably at all this but I am trying and I’m realising that’s all that matters.

So this week when you remember Femme Fatale, remember to be unapologetic and remember that your dreams are meant to be big!

– Ari’

 

Consent

Inspired by recent events.
Learn to ask the question.

BOY

She wanted it.

That’s what he said.

She just needed to be pushed over the edge.

She wanted it.

That’s what he heard.

He just needed to take off her skirt.

She wanted it.

That’s what her dress said.

Right?

It wasn’t all in my head?

I didn’t ask her,

but she wanted it,

She wanted to feel me.

She wanted my hands on her skin.

She wanted to take me.

She was just too intoxicated to let me in.

So you know i helped her along…

“So you got Consent?”

“Consent?”

“Yeah.. Consent?

Did i ask her?

No, but her dress said so.

Did i ask her?

No, but her eyes didn’t say no.

Did i ask her?

No but my mind told me so.

Did i ask her?

No, but the way she moved her hips let me know.

Did i ask her?

No, but she was walking alone

Did i ask her?

I didn’t hear her say no!

Bro, just so you know

silence,

Is not an answer.

 

 

‘Reclaim the Night’

My Uni is saying NO to all forms of violence against women, street harassment and victim blaming

Date:  Thursday 23rd February

Time: 7pm

Location: Owens Park ,Fallowfield- Oxford Road Manchester

Why?

Because Women’s rights are human rights.

Because We need to stop blaming the Victim.

Because My choice of outfit does not take away my choices.

Because You don’t own me.

Because “I’m a woman Phenomenally , Phenomenal woman that’s me.”

-Ari