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IWD2020: Five of my Favourite Women on Social Media

It’s Women’s History month and International Women’s Day tomorrow.

With that in mind I am celebrating Five of my favourite women on social media. They might be your faves too. Tell me who your favourite women on social media are and why you love them! This list is in no particular order.

Jollz & FK

photo via @fkabudu on twitter

This ‘dynamic duo’ have shown me that conversation is an art. They can talk/speak on most issues share their insights and opinions whilst making us all laugh. Their combination of intelligence and humour is unmatched, they took it a step further when they teamed up to create one of my all time favourite podcasts – I Said What I Said. I especially love the name of the podcast because it highlights women being unapologetic and assertive, qualities we definitely need to see more of in women! To FK & Jollz, thank you for all the laughs & the confidence you both exude!

Ozzy Etomi

photo via www.ozzyetomi.com

My personal favourite ‘twitter feminist’, but she is so much more she is an incredible writer, a mother and I would definitely say one of the most stylish people I follow. Ozzy is a bad-ass in every sense of the word, she takes no prisoners and speaks her truth. She has taught me how to own my opinion and stand my ground. She does not pretend to be anything more than what she is and is the level of self-assured I aspire to be. To Ozzy, thank you for your voice!

Moe a.k.a Mochievous

photo via @mochievous on twitter

Moe is amazing! She is my e-mentor, as a young lawyer it is amazing to be able to look up and see someone like Moe. She is a fountain of knowledge I don’t have any other words to describe her. She is a lawyer, a writer and the mastermind behind Scalemyhustle. Moe shares so much valuable information almost daily, she gives so much and is so passionate about everything she does. To Moe, thank you for being so inspirational!

photo via http://www.theufuoma.com

Ufuoma

Ufuoma is my travel goals, she is on her 40th Country and I am in awe. I love that she is a conscious traveller who takes her time to immerse herself in the culture of wherever she is visiting. It is even more amazing that she is travelling on her Nigerian passport because we all know that is an extreme sport. Ufuoma shares her experiences with us through her vivid Instagram and her blog theufuoma.com. She works full time but still has time to see the world. She has taught me that life is truly what you make it! To Ufuoma, thank you for living your life in colour we absolutely love to see it!

These are just a few of my favourite social media babes! There are so many wonderful women out there who are doing amazing things. I am so proud to be a woman and I have chosen to celebrate a few women who might be unaware of the impact they can have .

Make sure to celebrate the women around you and don’t forget to celebrate yourself!

Fike

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career Growth writing

Three women on : Balancing their 9-5 & Side Hustle

These days we all have a hustle and sometimes one just isn’t enough! Working a 9-5 can be so demanding and let’s be honest does it really end at 5?

This week on the blog I asked three amazing young women how they balance their 9-5’s and their side hustles.

What is your day job & What is your side hustle?

Tireni

I was going to say my 9-5 and then I realised it’s more like 8-6 on a very good day lol…anyway, I work as a Junior Associate at a law firm in Lagos. Aside from this, I run a home bakery and I am a Visual Artist which includes photography, creative videography and social mdia content creating and managing.

Eme

Hi! My name is Eme and during the week I’m a trainee lawyer based in Nigeria. After hours and over the weekend, I’m a social media manager for about 3 clients.

Bukiie

My day job is as an accountant working in professional services, my side hustle is a personal finance platform- Save Spend Invest that teaches millennial how to achieve financial freedom, saving better, spending well and investing wisely.

How long have you been working for?

Bukiie

Three and a half years

Tireni

I literally started work at the beginning of this year (2020)

Eme

I’ve been working in my day job for about three months now ( I am very fresh to the corporate world). I’ve been working on my side hustle for about 6 months.

Did you start your Side Hustle before your job?

Eme

Yes. I started social media managing about 3 months before getting into my legal role.

Bukiie

Nope, started 6 months after!

Tireni

Yeah, my side hustles had been developing before I started work.

Why did you start your side hustle?

Tireni

For quite a few reasons actually:

To fuel my passion, stay sane and be happy. My day job is very different from my side hustles which are much more creative. Fuelling my creative side often helps me stay sane, not get overwhelmed by the corporate world and to feel energised in life generally

To make money, of course.

To push myself our of my comfort zone and force myself to evolve, learn new skills and put them to use to help others and make them happy.

Because I have a list of what I call “impossible dreams” that God has given me and I believe these side hustles are an act of obedience and faith in God and his promises for me.

Eme

Honestly, it kind of fell into my lap. I’ve always been into social media and being creative, and a couple of my friends noticed that. So, they would recommend me to manage business social media pages for their aunties, mums, cousins you name it. It happened a few times but I never really acted on it until quite recently.

There was a three month gap between being called to the Nigerian Bar and starting my new job as a lawyer and I really needed something to do. I love immersing myself in projects and this didn’t hurt because it was a project that filled my pockets. So, I decided to take it seriously and 3 months later I’m gaining a steady income from something that really just happened by chance.

Bukiie

I started it for me really. To teach myself about personal finance and then once I got confident in my knowledge and realised there was a demand for it, I started sharing that too.

What is your biggest challenge with having a side hustle?

Bukiie

Doing everything myself ,because I don’t have a team so it’s hard to juggle all the ideas and execution with a full time job.

Tireni

TIME & MOTIVATION

As I hinted above, I work long hours. When I come home I often don’t have time or I’m too tired to start doing anything. But I’ve mostly gotten round that by planning and prepping in advance rather than waiting fot hte rush.

In relation to motivation, I mean it in the sent that most businesses aren’t booming when they start. When you see what you’re left with at the end of the month or when you decide not to ‘pay’ yourself but rather reinvest the money in your business, it’s like… is this really worth the stress? when will I be rolling in it?

My two tips

  • Trust the journey, even if it never hits you will still have learnt so much about yourself and business.
  • Don’t shortchange yourself, just because it’s a side hustle doesn’t mean you should be making ‘side’ money. If you’re doing it and people are coming to you, that means you’re good.

I always used to shortchange myself thinking this isn’t a real job but if you think like that you’ll give up. What you’ll even likely come to realise is that you’re just as good if not better than the people who do it full time and you don’t have to cheapen yourself to find clients.

They’ll come eventually. Now I have people who have seen work I’ve done and are scared of my prices – if only they knew I was practically doing it for free then. Treat it like is your only source of income because if it’s a side hustle your time is even more precious.

Eme

My biggest challenge right now is time management. So far I haven’t let any of my clients down- but juggling social media management with law is definitely not easy because both are extremely time consuming. I’ve had to give up many weekends and many hours of sleep. I’m currently working on being more organised so I’m not sacrificing self-care for work output.

What do you love the most about having a side hustle?

Eme

I honestly don’t think I can pick one thing because there’s so much I love about it. Like I said, I love immersing myself in projects. Having a side hustle makes me feel motivated- Like i’m doing something for me. I definitely respect 9-5’s but having this side hustle makes me feel like i’m building something for myself, which is really exciting.

Also, I love the fact that I’m learning new skills and improving myself. Social media managing lets me use a lot of the creative juices I don’t get to use while working in law. I’m learning about algorithms, photography, graphic design and just the mechanics of marketing in general. It’s really given me the opportunity to grow my skill set.

Bukiie

I love that it allows me to fulfil a passion and part of purpose. I like the reward of helping people do better with their money whether it’s helping them achieve saving targets or clear their debt.

Tireni

I’m constantly pushing the limits I’ve set for myself for what I am capable of achieving and I’m learning very practical life lessons from my experiences. I also like that I am in complete control.

I’m not always super confident in areas where I don’t know everything but not having anyone in charge of me means I have to take the lead and step up instead of aside. I’m learning to use my voice more, say how I feel and what I really think and that is seeping into my day job & how I approach that too.

Where do you see your side hustle in 2 years?

Tireni

Honestly, I don’t know and that doesn’t really bother me. I have visions and plans but every time I make those, God laughs. My expectations are always exceeded and so I try not to put timeline on things and just trust that God’s timing is the best.

Eme

This is really exciting to think about. I see myself having exponentially grown the business in terms of clients as well as man power. I see myself probably making way more from my side hustle than my main job.

Bukiie

Hopefully grown to about a team of 5-10 people, helping over 1000 young people work towards financial freedom.

How can we reach you/ learn more about your business(es) ?

Bukiie

Bukiie

All things me- @bukiiesmart

All things SaveSpendInvest – @savespendinvest on Instagram, we also have a podcast called The SaveSpendInvest Podcast.

Tireni

Tireni

I thought you’d never ask! Lol. My Instagram’s are:

  • @drizzlebakehouse
  • @tozacreative ,
  • personal is @tirenns

Eme

I don’t have a business website or Instagram page just yet ( mostly because I’m not taking on any new clients at the moment) But I’m working on growing the team and taking on new clients in the (very) near future. In the mean time you can reach me on my personal Instagram @emeukpong any updates will be announced there!

Eme

Thank you for sharing ladies!

Do you have a side-hustle? Let me know how you find balance, in the comments.

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Growth reflections writing

Gratitude

Hello everyone!

How is your week going? Did we practice being more confident in the spaces we are currently occupying? Let me know below!

Today I want to talk about gratitude… this was inspired by a lovely impromptu brunch I attended last weekend. I was surrounded by 22 intelligent, creative, strong & passionate women.

We were all asked to share something(s) we were grateful for last year and as I listened to all the women speak about their different experiences and how it led them back to gratitude I was amazed.

Life is full of surprises and the sun doesn’t always come out the next morning, our cloudy days get even cloudier and the rain just won’t go away. Lol! Despite it all our strength should always lie in the fact that there is always light at the end, there is a lesson in every situation and gratitude to be felt & expressed.

When you think about it, no matter how bad things can get there will always be something to be grateful for. Living life with a constant lense of gratitude just makes everything better. You find that you complain less and your mind overflows with positive feelings and thoughts.

So next time everything seems to be crashing down, don’t forget that gratitude is a surefire way to get out of the situation fast.

Some things I’m grateful for:

1. Amazing friends & family

2. My job

3. Good health

What are you grateful for this year? Please share in the comments below!

Fike

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Growth reflections writing

Adulting

Hello everyone!

How has your week been?

Thursdays are typically a day of reflection for me and I’d like to bring that to this space. Last week on Instagram I asked my fellow newbies to the workforce how they were finding it & if they were enjoying the work they were doing.

Everyone was really open and honest and it was nice to see that I wasn’t the only experiencing certain things.

Some of the key things people struggled with:

1. Imposter Syndrome

2. Not being challenged enough

3. Feeling overwhelmed/ burnt out

These are things that greatly impact how you feel and in turn how you experience this new stage in life.

Personally, to make it all a little bit easier I remind myself of certain things.

1. Change is uncomfortable and is also constant, I have to get used to this feeling.

2. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be right now

3. They wouldn’t hire me if they didn’t think I could do it!

4. I can’t control what happens but I can control my response

I’d like to find out what people think and what advice anyone has for those of us who might be struggling a little bit & who don’t actually think we are where we’re meant to be.

Please let me know your thoughts in the comments section!

Enjoy the rest of your week!

Fike

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Love romance things to do in lagos

Things to do on Valentines Day in Lagos 2020

Hello everyone!

I’m back and just in time to save my last-minute lovers ❤️😂.

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and here’s me ready to save the day/night.

I know some of you still don’t know what you’re doing, and your significant other is asking, so here are some cute ideas if you’re in Lagos!

1. Stay in your house dear.

Personally, this is my favourite suggestion, have you ever experienced Valentine’s Day traffic?

If you have I’m not sure how you still do it every year. Today is a great day for dinner & a movie ( Netflix and chill) in your house, get some fairy lights, some cute candles, and a sweet playlist to create a romantic vibe.

2. If you don’t have a house to stay in well then:

Dinner at a nice Restaurant will do, remember restaurants have hiked up prices and you might need to reserve a spot.

So to my last min.com friends have a look at the @Eat.Drink.Lagos Insta page to see a list of restaurants with Valentine’s Day specials. There’s a range of restaurant’s so hopefully, there’s something for everyone.

3. If you need to kill time before your dinner, be cliche and go and see a movie!

This is easy – pick a movie you’ll both enjoy and then see where the night takes you!

4. Couples massage: honestly this is not a last-minute man plan but it doesn’t hurt to try! Lucky for you it seems like there’s a spa at every turn in Lagos so pick one in your budget. This works better for Saturday. Good luck!

5. For something fun & romantic.

If your significant other has lots of energy then Upbeat is doing a special package that includes a meal, wine & jumping.

If anyone actually does this, please let me know how this goes. Try at your own risk.

6. If you’re being brave and finally asked someone out for Valentine’s Day, you might want to go for drinks and small bites, just in case it gets a bit awkward and you’re ready to leave!

My top two picks for really cute outdoor drink spots are:

1. The Light House

2. Bolivar Bar

7. For something romantic and a bit different

Bubble is hosting an outdoor movie night on Saturday 15th at Lekki Special Events Centre. There will be Sip&paint, wine tasting, games & cupids den.

This is definitely something to surprise your significant other with, especially if on Friday you took my number 1 suggestion and stayed in your house! More details on their Instagram page – @bubblee_ng

8. One of my favourite spots – Bogobiri is hosting a Karaoke & Games night there’s also dinner for two! Head over to their Instagram page for more details @bogobirihouse

 

Remember it’s a day to show love, it’s supposed to be fun. So no matter what you do enjoy !

Happy Valentine’s Day!

– Fike

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reflections

5 things I learnt in 5 days at NYSC Camp: Obubra, Cross-River 2019

1. Life’s what you make it!

To be honest I had fun at camp. It was the push outside my comfort zone I knew I needed. I said hi to strangers, asked for help. Danced to weird but wonderful music, got a thousand and one mosquito bites but I tried not to complain and so now I have fond memories

2. Take the high road often!

Like Tems, I kept asking ‘ why you wanna try me’ and saying ‘ they want to challenge me’ I’m really soft-spoken and it leads to people taking the piss. Man I wanted to fight so many times but I learnt that I have a restraint I apparently only reserve for strangers lol anyways taking the high road it a great idea, you leave the other person feeling silly and you feel yourself literally growing into the bigger person people always ask you to be.

3. To blend in I would have to speak either fluent pidgin English or fluent Yoruba and this was not the case. Alas I didn’t get too many weary looks

4. Privacy is apparently overrated. With communal showers and toilets that had no doors and sharing a living space with almost 60 people. There was no time and space to be ‘alone with your thoughts’ and honestly, sometimes that’s a good thing. It forces you to live in the moment and not think about yesterday or tomorrow. Helps you slow down

5. Choices are kind of exhausting. The freedom that came with wearing the same thing every day, my options were a white T-shirt and white shorts or a white T-shirt and white shorts! It was wonderful, being an indecisive person it really made my mornings and evenings less stressful.

I wish I could have stayed longer but life happens.

I will do an NYSC Camp Starter Pack!

Enjoy my Nollywood style photoshoot, courtesy of an on-site photographer.

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Growth reflections

Get Your Coins Sis!

When I hosted my first vision board party one thing everyone had on their board was dollars & pounds lol!

We all agreed that going forward we wanted to make more money and get better at saving and investing, the goal is to earn more & grow that money.

I think a lot of us know we should be saving and investing but if you’re anything like me then it’s just a chore, a pain and it gets buried in procrastination.

Shout out to the ones actually doing the work though!

To be fair I did start saving & investing this year, just a tiny bit but it was something. To try and improve I’ve been doing lots of research on how to be better with money and just generally improve my spending & saving habits so when I start earning all the cash moniessss I know what to do and how to handle it.

Some Online Things:

1. Tomie Balogun on Instagram

2. JR Kanu on Instagram

3. Smartmoneyafrica.org

4. Money Matters with Nimi

5. Toni Tone on Twitter sells a Budget Template for a very small fee

6. The Money Africa

These online tools generally give you more knowledge on the topic, for more practical resources see below:

Tools:

1. PiggyVest :

This is my favourite app right now, it allows me set daily, weekly or monthly direct debits from my main account to my piggyvest account . It gives investment opportunities and you earn interest on the money you save. It sets specific withdrawal days to encourage you to keep your savings, if you want to withdraw outside of the set days you are charged a small percentage! It’s all round amazing.

FBNQuest

This is another great way to grow your money, First Banks Money Market fund invests your money in a diversified portfolio and you can start with as little as N5,000

Books:

1. The Smart Money Woman- Arese Ugwu

I loved reading this, there’s so many useful tips and she explains boring principals in a really interesting and useful way.

2. Money Brain- JR Kanu

This is a really good one, its more well rounded and literally talks about all the things that will help you develop a money brain, not just how to grow your money.

Please add more useful websites, Twitter handles, books, or any other resources in the comments!

Here’s to getting our coins in 2020!

– Fike

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It’s not just me, Is it?

Hello everyone! Its been ages since I posted on here, I am the very definition of ‘life got in the way’

Anyways, I’ve decided to find my way back as my Queen Mother- Beyonce once said.

Today I want to talk about how I am feeling. It’s a weird time, I have completed a degree, as well as a  post-graduate degree. Now I am faced with the task of figuring out my next move. What doesn’t help is  that everywhere I turn older adults are saying ‘ so what’s next?’

It has made me start to wonder about, what people have against living in the moment. If they mean well why not just ask what are you doing with your time now ? ‘what next?’ is a nosey question that can leave the person answering feeling a bit anxious at the end.

I am certain a huge group of us are tired of this question and even just this space but alas, it is part of the journey.

This is just to say if you’re in this place where you’re not quite sure what to do or if you even want to be doing the thing you’ve decided to do, then we are all truly in this together.

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Here’s to hoping we figure it out and not being too hard on ourselves even if it takes a little longer than we anticipate!

-Ari’

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To Understand [an understanding]

Be wary of yourself.

Be wary of your mind.

Be wary of the expectations you put on them.

 

Not everyone is you.

Not everyone will understand your spirit man.

This is for the ones who will take the time to unfold.

To peel back your layers and take delight in being enthralled in your essence.

 

Understand that a time will come when you will let them go

Those expectations that you carry so –

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Enough that you often get burned.

 

Big wishes and bigger dreams.

They must not consume you.

Inhale the present.

Exhale the resentment.

Don’t let them bring you down.

 

To be expectant of someone who is still expecting themselves.

You may have found you.

Not everyone can.

Take some time to understand your fellow Wo(man). 

 

-Ari’

 

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Femme Fatale

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My definition: The ones they tell you and him to stay away from, the ones who know what they want and are not afraid to go after it.

Dictionary definition: a seductive woman who lures men into dangerous or compromising situations.

I have been feeling very inspired lately and recently there is a lot of girl power in the air.

My dear friend recently launched a website, dedicated to educating the masses and having the very important conversation of Feminism and why it is important. Here is the link to a truly enlightening experience  brag-aboutit  .

This post is about me redefining the definition of ‘Femme Fatale’ the popular definition is basically another way of saying women are responsible for the actions grown men take and I do not agree. It could also mean women are powerful and can make their dreams come true and I like this more.

The fact that women are seemingly more liberated in several ways is a good thing. I think it is important that women have the choice to be and  ‘Femme Fatale’ should be another way of saying free.

This post is hereby dedicated to my dear friend for starting something bigger than herself and for being true to her beliefs.

This post is all about the woman I have come to admire and maybe should examine more closely. Gabrielle ‘Coco’ Chanel.

I remember stumbling upon her biopic when I was about ten. That was something I’ll never forget because even at that age I was amazed by how she overcame the struggle and how used her femininity to progress, but despite this, she never compromised her standards and worked hard for everything she got.

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I loved that she believed in practicality and comfort, but not at the expense of looking good. She redefined what it meant to be feminine and showed that black wasn’t a colour anyone should be afraid of. Although I am taking a path far away from hers, she is the very definition of Femme Fatale for me. She did it and was unapologetic in her ambitions.

Coco Chanel inspires me daily to be bold, seek more and put myself out there. I am failing miserably at all this but I am trying and I’m realising that’s all that matters.

So this week when you remember Femme Fatale, remember to be unapologetic and remember that your dreams are meant to be big!

– Ari’