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Femme Fatale



My definition: The ones they tell you and him to stay away from, the ones who know what they want and are not afraid to go after it.

Dictionary definition: a seductive woman who lures men into dangerous or compromising situations.

I have been feeling very inspired lately and recently there is a lot of girl power in the air.

My dear friend recently launched a website, dedicated to educating the masses and having the very important conversation of Feminism and why it is important. Here is the link to a truly enlightening experience  brag-aboutit  .

This post is about me redefining the definition of ‘Femme Fatale’ the popular definition is basically another way of saying women are responsible for the actions grown men take and I do not agree. It could also mean women are powerful and can make their dreams come true and I like this more.

The fact that women are seemingly more liberated in several ways is a good thing. I think it is important that women have the choice to be and  ‘Femme Fatale’ should be another way of saying free.

This post is hereby dedicated to my dear friend for starting something bigger than herself and for being true to her beliefs.

This post is all about the woman I have come to admire and maybe should examine more closely. Gabrielle ‘Coco’ Chanel.

I remember stumbling upon her biopic when I was about ten. That was something I’ll never forget because even at that age I was amazed by how she overcame the struggle and how used her femininity to progress, but despite this, she never compromised her standards and worked hard for everything she got.


I loved that she believed in practicality and comfort, but not at the expense of looking good. She redefined what it meant to be feminine and showed that black wasn’t a colour anyone should be afraid of. Although I am taking a path far away from hers, she is the very definition of Femme Fatale for me. She did it and was unapologetic in her ambitions.

Coco Chanel inspires me daily to be bold, seek more and put myself out there. I am failing miserably at all this but I am trying and I’m realising that’s all that matters.

So this week when you remember Femme Fatale, remember to be unapologetic and remember that your dreams are meant to be big!

– Ari’


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I’m a Feminist ‘unfollow me’ & other stories

There has been a recent shift on the blog from the poetry, I haven’t been inspired lately. In other words, my life has been mostly drama free.

So today I am talking about Feminism.

Firstly, I am a Feminist.

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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said it first, but I’ll say it again louder this time, for the people in the back! We should all be!

My Aunt agrees with me on this, one day I went to visit and she said:

“I have something for you, I might not be as radical as the book but women are not just here to please men in the bedroom and the kitchen.” Buhari should have been listening in on this conversation right…

She went on to place the essay and acclaimed Ted Talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie ‘ We should all be Feminists’ in my hand. I was so touched because this is a Nigerian woman into her 50’s and although she has always been the cool ‘aunt’ i was so pleased that someone not from my time understood the importance.

More so because I tried to tell my mum how we all needed to be feminists and her reply was

” If everyone was the same it would all be a bit boring.” no luck there but I decided she would see the light eventually!

Now on Twitter I was tweeting away and some random man followed me, I like to go through people’s tweets because I personally think they do represent how you view the world and your sense of humour etc.

Anyway, this man had been posting about how Feminism was ruining marriages etc

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I was appalled and upset that such an individual would even follow me. So I made a Public Service Announcement.

‘I am a feminist please unfollow me’ in fact I directed it at him

Out of nowhere another man pops up  and says:

” What made you a feminist.Degree? Lack of home training or ?”

Yes, my Law degree is actually the reason why I am seeking equality.


My home training is the reason I believe that I deserve to be paid as much as any man, it is the reason I don’t believe women should accept whatever they are given, it’s the reason I think women should be heard not just seen.

My home training is the reason I believe a woman can do whatever a man can do and should be allowed to have the choice to!

Now I was shocked but then after going through this second guy’s tweets, his views were that feminism was demonic amongst other absurd things.

It was a funny ordeal and my friend’s and I had a good laugh, mostly because we saw how far off we are from where we need to be.


So I am a Feminist and there are many reasons why you might want to be one too!

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